We know what to do in a given situation when our breathing matches God’s breathing ( or something that is greater than your frail manipulative powers )
In comparison, with control our breathing is often unnatural and short.
There is constriction in the body.
We feel driven and fixed without a sense of having real choices when we operate from rigid control.
We speak without thinking, and we feel embarrassed.
We then punish ourselves harshly and apologize to others a lot.
We hold unpurged resentments.